Real talk ...A mothers love
One of the great things I love about my family is the way we can talk about anything and the deep discussions we have concerning all facets of life, love, relationships, politics, religion…there is no topic we won’t discuss, and passionately debate…I mean it’s better than barber shop talk. Just the other night after many drinks, some chicken wings, and music, and after the men folk went out to buy more liquor because it’s Saturday and with no liquor sales on Sunday, we of course had to replenish the stock…the ladies held a roundtable. God, how I love these moments! With many of us having sons, have raised sons, having nephews and the like...the topic centered around raising sons to men. You see, we all seem to agree, that if you love and train your babies while they are young, they will grow up to become even better men. We all agree that a son clings to his mother and may often choose his mate based upon his mothers characteristics and how she loved him. We love our son’s very much! We love them hard! My mother being the Matriarch loves her sons through all of their mess and misfortune, and they love her back 10-fold. I love my son with all I got, and never let a day pass without a hug, a kiss, an “I love you”, a conversation or a swift kick in the azz! So, what happens when sons don’t get this kind of love? What happens when they are rejected? How do they grow up? How do they see the women in their life if they have never felt the love of the first woman in their life? We all agree a man who doesn’t’ grow up with this kind of love will seek it first, but will think that this woman that he intends to love will leave him, will reject him…just like his mother. There will never be a firm bond, because in the back of his mind, until he heals that inner child, until that “little boy” reconciles that he is entitled to LOVE, he will always reject the notion that a woman can love him, for him. The woman must love “the child” in him, and can help him heal, if he allows such. It is so important that we love our kids with all we got, and even our nephews, and cousins, because what they learn of love is learned in childhood…that’s what sometimes makes a grandma’s love so grand…because a grandma loves unconditionally. WE should all love like a grandma. It will make the world a much better place!
14 comments:
You nailed it Miz. You can't give love to someone who doesn't feel worthy of it...and no one loves like Bigmama.
nicole - so true!Big Mama loves forever!
look at them smiles
Love is everything.
The difference between life, and living-dead.
torrance- yes, we are a happy, loved bunch!
dave - It is what keeps us alive, and i gladly give it everyday of my life.
that's real talk right there. thanks for reinforcing a much needed sentiment.
blu - thanks lady!
How true, the love of mama (which is rather lasting) does much to the son (as well as the daughter).
Girl...you hit the mail on the head with this one.
rethots - i so agree!
Diva - thanks lady!
women of the future should be thankful that mothers like you are raising these young boys to be GREAT men. Kudos to you
lea - awe lady! That was super sweet, thank you!
This was so sweet...made me think of the deep, endless love that I have for my boys.
I think people all-too-often forget that what they say and how they treat children truly impacts them when they become adults.
The good thing is...even if you have a jacked up childhood, you can still recover. LOL. And to that, I say: thank God for all the positive influences that are able to pour into us...(e.g, grandma! smile).
Great post.
And...cute picture!
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