Comments on Miz's Write For Life: On that Cougar TipMy daughter called me a “Cougar”...

Sharon, i feel you on this...in fact this conversa...

2008-02-21T20:54:00.000-08:00

Sharon, i feel you on this...in fact this conversation came up with a young one...an only son, with no children...and what you said was the thought that crossed my mind, and so i spoke on it...if there is anything that forbades me from accepting this life wholeheartedly it is this...the children situation, and also the respect and acceptance of his parents. Thanks for posting this...see ya SATURDAY!

So far I have yet to get my cougar on, but I assur...

2008-02-21T20:33:00.000-08:00

So far I have yet to get my cougar on, but I assure you, I have run across many young brothas who have been more than willing to be my prey if you know what I mean!

I'm sure I could go there EXCEPT for the fact that most of these brothas don't have children yet. I find myself putting myself into the shoes of these young men's mothers and imagine this scene:

"What do you want with my baby? And why are you trying to steal my grandbabies away too?"

I'm sure those would be my questions if my one and only child (a son) were to come home with a woman such as myself before giving me the grandchildren I am so looking forward to one day (waaaaaaaaay in the future).

But I also say, you gotta swim with the current sometimes! Everybody in!!!

ivent - i hear ya...i do feel that way sometimes, ...

2008-02-21T17:02:00.000-08:00

ivent - i hear ya...i do feel that way sometimes, but sometimes....i don't. Do you Lady!

I'm not knocking any woman who goes that route...j...

2008-02-20T21:01:00.000-08:00

I'm not knocking any woman who goes that route...just not for me. I'm tired of coming across youngbucks who think I'm Stella trying to get my groove back.

I tell 'em flat out: my name is NOT Stella, and I don't have to GET my groove back, cuz I NEVER lost it.

I may be paranoid...but I think they're trying to hit a lick...get some butt and $$$. Uhhh i don't think so.

tony OH - i'm waiting, anticipating a jewel luv, f...

2008-02-20T16:36:00.000-08:00

tony OH - i'm waiting, anticipating a jewel luv, fo sure!

Rich - funny thing...it's strokes my ego as well...lol.

dejanae - yeah, it's been awhile...i would say call me Stella, but i ain't checking for no DL brothas.

Kiki - GRRRRRRRRRR!

T - lol, i'm not answering that...but Sugah Daddy comes to mind.

Poca - you took the words right outta my mouth...and thanks lady, "i just make it do...what it do."

ladyshay - i hear ya, but i'm not hunting...no way...but i will oblige.

RAWR!!I think the Cougar word is a bit predatory, ...

2008-02-20T15:45:00.000-08:00

RAWR!!
I think the Cougar word is a bit predatory, but then again, I really like it. I'm still pretty young, so I really only date older men, but when the time comes, hopefully them youngins will know whats up!

And I say pull em if they lookin honey!!

UMMMM ^^^^^ a Sugar Daddy...LMAOCougar Smougar...y...

2008-02-20T13:04:00.000-08:00

UMMMM ^^^^^ a Sugar Daddy...LMAO

Cougar Smougar...you look good...forget the rest, I told ya girl...Stella aint got shyt on you..LOL!

cougar huh, what am i called, my girl is 24

2008-02-20T05:56:00.000-08:00

cougar huh, what am i called, my girl is 24

GGGGRRRRRRRRR........RRRRRRRRRR.....GGGGGRRRRRRRR....

2008-02-19T22:53:00.000-08:00

GGGGRRRRRRRRR........RRRRRRRRRR.....GGGGGRRRRRRRR...

nuff said...

hot mamau getting ur groove back huh?aint nothing ...

2008-02-19T21:21:00.000-08:00

hot mama
u getting ur groove back huh?
aint nothing wrong with getting ur cougar on
if u like it
i love it
go getem
roarrrrrrrrrr
lol

I think there is nothing wrong with an older woman...

2008-02-19T19:00:00.000-08:00

I think there is nothing wrong with an older woman younger man situation. I have been in about 6 of those relationships in my lifetime. Some were short lived (mostly about sex) - I wanted it, she wanted it, but there were 2 that I really fell for and age had absolutely nothing to do with why we didn't move forward. It was other stuff.

When I think about it, older woman are a lot better in relationships than younger ones mainly because you actually can have some decent conversations. Most young chicks only speak "shopping and sex". That gets old after a while.

Do your thang, cougar, just make sure he isn't too young, because as the hunters we are, we get off on the fact that we can actually "bag" the big game and getting you may only stroke his ego.

You missing the jewels luv, all I'm saying is you ...

2008-02-19T16:55:00.000-08:00

You missing the jewels luv, all I'm saying is you can have it all and not sacrifice quality or quantity by examining. And don't act like when you go to the fruit isle you don't sample the fruit before purchasing. You know you pick a grape here, a strawberry there, after awhile you can just tell the good from the bad. It's scientific, organic, healthy fruit. The over ripe ones have usually been on the market too long!!!

Y'all got it going on in the spot...happy to see s...

2008-02-19T15:53:00.000-08:00

Y'all got it going on in the spot...happy to see so many Cougars jumping off, lol!

L-Boogie - lol, gurl, you know when they step to you they got to come correct...i ain't mad at you either!

Nicole - yep, you are right...since that incident at the gas station...well my eyes are open, smile. THanks lady.

wrknprogress - I hear ya lady, daddy don't tell not lies...GRRRRRR!

Tony OH - up in here laying down silence...so how does it feel to be on the flipside? I feel ya on the ripe stage, but how do you know when he's "too ripe"...care to drop some science on that too!

cinmike- Good looking out...i don't think theres anything wrong with us either.

blu jewel - you hit the nail on the head lady, confidence, not gold-digging, just appreciating lifes flow....that's us! GRRRRRRRR!

Michelle - thanks for dropping by and dropping me a note....Go'on girl with your bad self....Love wins!

Anali - I hear ya...especially about the turnaround "men called nothing" and it being considered normal...i know i'm no predator...but i do have a mean stroll.

Capsis - You betta watch out lady, lol...calling them men "Perverts"...lol again!

Lovebabz - a definite testament to the truth, and that it can work. Thanks for sharing.

Gemini - See, you all are making me a believer...thanks for that!

I'm 7 yrs older than my husband and I have to say ...

2008-02-19T14:56:00.000-08:00

I'm 7 yrs older than my husband and I have to say that for someone who grew up the way he did, he has a better head on his shoulders than I do. We wrote our own wedding vows a year and a half ago and told him that "He's my reality when I get lost in fiction." I live in my head so much (because I both read and write fiction) that he brings me back. It works for us, y'know? Sometimes. I could live without all the figurines though. LOL.

Ah, I married my husband when he was only 25 and I...

2008-02-19T12:01:00.000-08:00

Ah, I married my husband when he was only 25 and I was 34. We have been maried for 12 years, now granted we are divorcing, but I certainly do not regret our marriage. He was and is a very mature person. His age was never a big deal to me. We seemd very suited to one another. I would/could marry a younger man again if he is in his right mind and likes me as I am. Love is gift, accept it.

like Anali - i don't like the predatory sense of t...

2008-02-19T11:48:00.000-08:00

like Anali - i don't like the predatory sense of the term cougar. but, i am VERY FELINE: independent, luvable when i WANT to be & NOT a moment longer!;-), enjoy your gifts - but will NEVAH beg for ANYthing, seemingly indifferent at times, VERY ALERT, need i go on?

Now - regarding the younger man thang: I have also inherited this trend (most of the women in my family are older than their men by months & even years) - even though women mature sooner mentally, men mature sooner physically. I think my FAVORITE aspect of younger men is them trying to PROVE that they've matured mentally: it's SO CUTE! Women are also more patient w/ the immature man (doesn't REALLY seem to change much w/ age - so, I may as well get rock-hard ... abs with that immaturity!:-).

& i think they call older men w/ younger women PERVERTS! LOL!

there - i think i've ticked off enough men for one day;-).

I think it's fine to date a younger man, but I don...

2008-02-19T10:00:00.000-08:00

I think it's fine to date a younger man, but I don't like the term "cougar." It does have a predatory ring to it. And older men who date and marry much younger women aren't called anything, because society just considers it normal. It's like how crayons that were beige were called flesh toned. It was so ingrained in society that it was the only truth.

Saw you on if ever's blog and felt compelled to co...

2008-02-19T07:47:00.000-08:00

Saw you on if ever's blog and felt compelled to comment to this post. I've been with my sweetie, whose much younger, for 2-1/2 years now. Ain't nothing wrong with May-December love ((smile)). The best love can be the most unexpected, so get your COUGAR on.... :-}

Hey lady! Girl, I'm so feeling you on this. When I...

2008-02-19T07:18:00.000-08:00

Hey lady! Girl, I'm so feeling you on this. When I turned 40 last year, it seemed like every youngun between 28-35 was hitting on me. I was like, "WTF?" Typically one in favor of older men, I was reluctant to return any interest shown to me, but I've since digressed. I did have an experience which I blogged about where the youngun wasn't whom he presented himself to be and I obviously missed some of the signs, but it hasn't stopped me from considering them.

I think the younger men are finding our confidence, sexual maturity, not having the "gold digger" mentality, and so on very attractive and it reduces the games and stress that come with relationships.

Keep on keeping on with your hot self girl! ^5

Lol, there is nothing wrong with older women.I can...

2008-02-18T23:50:00.000-08:00

Lol, there is nothing wrong with older women.

I cant remember the last time I dated a woman really younger than me.

It's about maturity.

Excuse me, but allow me to pontificate a little fu...

2008-02-18T21:43:00.000-08:00

Excuse me, but allow me to pontificate a little further. You see ladies, you gotta learn to pick your fruit when it's ripe. It's like tomatoes or anything else, melons you name it. If you choose the firmest ones, they oftentimes don't taste as good. Take tomatoes for instance, if it's not ripe and it's too firm, I hope y'all are following the metaphors, so stay with me a moment. They are firm but they have no flavor. Ever had a green banana? It may be hard, but it aint sweet worth a damn. I hope somebodies hearing me. If you pick the riper ones at the peak time, you get firm and sweet together. I say this to say, if you're thinking long term, no pun intended, you gotta think nutrients and what's gonna provide substance and sustenance. So the next time you're out shopping, please keep these jewels in mind.

I just can't handle the mentality of these young g...

2008-02-18T21:26:00.000-08:00

I just can't handle the mentality of these young girls. I don't mind a ten year gap, but the conversation just ain't there most of the time. Now the booty looks good, tight and all that but like JayZ says, 30's the new 20, so 40's the new 30 and 50 is well 50, and like Jill Scott sings, you gotta live life like it's golden. I will say this to the ladies, when gravity kicks in, them young jokers are going to bounce. And don't mention the M-Word, y'all know what I'm talking about. Hot flashes! Yeah. Another reason to dip. See you need a man with some seasoning, a little thyme, a little pepper, some spices and plenty of sugar. But I must admit when I was young, I liked them Cougars too.

My daddy use to preach that "Age is a thing of min...

2008-02-18T19:59:00.000-08:00

My daddy use to preach that "Age is a thing of mind and matter--If you don't mind, it don't matter"

I have dated younger--There is a difference, but nothing good comes easy.

Do your thing lady!

I am here Roarrrr with you.

I say do you. Whatever you're comfortable with, go...

2008-02-18T18:51:00.000-08:00

I say do you. Whatever you're comfortable with, go with it...love's complicated enough without us adding more rules to it.

RRRRRRRRROaaaaaaaarrrrrrrr!!!I am wit'cha sista - ...

2008-02-18T18:34:00.000-08:00

RRRRRRRRROaaaaaaaarrrrrrrr!!!
I am wit'cha sista - men my age don't have enough courage to step to me...
Young soliders are down fo'da ride (fearless) - ROFLMAO